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Things To Do Before I Turn 50

  (also known as my "TA-DA" list as opposed to a "to do" list) It was my 49th birthday a few days ago and this got me thinking. Any birthday that ends with a zero always feels a bit like milestone or a landmark and, when I hit the big "five-o" in 2022, I don't want huge parties or celebrations but I would like to have ticked a few things off my low-effort bucket list.   I see these things as a way to improve my mental and physical health, plus a few slightly off-the-wall experiences that would make for great memories.  Start running again and include the following: Lead a C25K group again  Participate in parkrun EVERY week where possible  < ongoing (now parkrun Run Director too) Visit local landmarks whilst running  Train for a long race - building up from 5k > 10k > 10 miles > half marathon, with a couple of longer trail races mixed in  Lose a lot bit of weight Post more on Instagram or give the blog a bit of a reboot < ongoing Look at


There is an industrial estate around the corner from us.  Part of the fence next to the entrance is a permanent shrine to a young lad who was the victim of a knife attack on that spot about four years ago.

The "shrine" is well maintained - there are always fresh flowers, a football scarf, messages, cards... but I can never understand why someone would want to remember the place of death rather than have a "nice" place to go.

 For instance, I couldn't go to bed number 12 on Ward 18 of the hospital where Mum died. I have to visit the graveyard where she is buried. And to be honest, I wouldn't want to visit the place where she died. It's like not allowing yourself to come to terms with what has happened.

Do you ever see "shrines" like this? I have noticed a trend of tying flowers to the lamp post where a fatal accident happened.  I can sort-of understand the initial laying of flowers at the scene but not for months, or even years, afterwards. What benefit does it have for people who have to view that every single day?  Does it serve as a reminder or a distraction?